Marie on DopaNite

10 Feb, 26

Valentine’s day reminds me of something I've been thinking about for a while now; how human beings are so talented at turning simple, beautiful things into full-time problems.

It normally feels like life is full of problems, but sometimes I wonder if they’re really that many or if we’re just constantly creating more. We take something good, simple, complicate it, and then begin to complain. Before you know it, there are talk shows, podcasts, panel discussions, people building serious careers around fixing things that common sense and a little honesty could have solved.

Communication for example; God gifted us with the ability to communicate in various forms what we want, what we don't want, what we feel, get a response, so we know how to proceed. We can create spaces that allow others to communicate, respond honestly as well, and then move on with life. Reactions may not always be positive, but clarity has a way of phasing things out.

Marie
@marie

Instead, we play games. We hold back information; rom-com style where one tiny omission creates chaos for years which could have been avoided with one honest sentence. Anyway, it is for the plot but I find it stupid. 😂
We create mountains out of small things, let people assume things about us, then get offended when they do, and still don't clarify. Now there are podcasts dedicated to decoding silence, late replies, and “good morning” texts. We even come up with personality types, disorders, and illnesses to describe someone who just won’t open their mouth to say yes or no.

This has gone to almost all areas of life. Eating became diets, detoxes, cheat days, and guilt. Rest turned into productivity anxiety. Friendship grouped into “low maintenance vs high maintenance.” Liking someone now requires strategy, timing, rules, and screenshots for group analysis. Everything is so technical, performative, tricky. So much work for lazy people like me. 😂

10 Feb, 26