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malbie @malbie
04 Jul, 26
Life is full of ironies, but few are as humiliating as self-bias. It reveals itself in countless ways, most commonly in our expectation to receive what we ourselves refuse to give. We demand to be rewarded with the very virtues we withhold, insisting on the benefits of reciprocity while deliberately neglecting our own obligations. Such is the contradiction of human selfishness: we desire a transaction in which only one party pays the price.

Perhaps nothing distorts judgement more than a deficiency of love. Selfishness strips us of fairness because it narrows our moral vision until our own interests become the only ones that matter. We measure justice by what serves us, not by what is right. In that state, we are willing to profit at the expense of others, scarcely concerned by the wounds we inflict, so long as our demands are met. The tragedy is not merely the harm we cause, but the astonishing absence of self-awareness with which we justify it.
St. Mgume @iammgume
05 Jul, 26
Marie @marie
05 Jul, 26
If we wake up every morning listening to, reading about, and studying other people...who to interact with, who to avoid, who to date, who not to date, how negative the opposite gender is, or how flawed this generation has become...when do we ever find the time to look at ourselves?

When do we pause to examine our own hearts, correct our own flaws, and become the kind of people we expect everyone else to be?
malbie @malbie
05 Jul, 26
Human beings are, by nature, social creatures. We weren't designed to exist in isolation, detached from one another despite our differences in race, ethnicity, culture, or any other demographic distinction. Yet one of the greatest obstacles to meaningful human connection is our tendency to magnify one another's flaws.

Ironically, we readily acknowledge that none is perfect. We admit that human flaws are thus inevitable and that many can be corrected, refined, or simply tolerated. However, when it comes to building relationships, we often treat imperfections as a disqualifying condition. We suddenly put emphasis on the faults we identify in others, magnifying them beyond proportion, and using them as the basis for deciding who is worthy of our company and who isn't.

Whether consciously or not, in so doing, we deny others the grace that allows them to grow, change, and mature beyond their present flaws.

Now, beneath this disposition lies a deeper deficiency: the absence of love.
St. Mgume @iammgume
05 Jul, 26
Discipline is a small price to pay for your dream.
St. Mgume @iammgume
06 Jul, 26
COMFORT!
Marie @marie
06 Jul, 26
It is not low self-esteem. I know exactly who I am, and I am confident in that. That's why I don't allow someone else's lack of urgency or enthusiasm towards me to change my character and principles.

Actually, constantly "matching energy" is the peak of low self-esteem because it means allowing other people's behavior shift your entire personality. If every time your true self is not received positively you become someone different, you're no longer acting from your own convictions, you're living life reactively. You have no self esteem because you don't even have a "self" to begin with.
malbie @malbie
07 Jul, 26
People who pride themselves on their "complexity" and deride others for being "simplistic" should realize that the truth is often not very complicated. What gets complex is evading the truth.
St. Mgume @iammgume
07 Jul, 26
Some people are somewhere starving and you're doing your third cook-a-thon because the first two records were broken...
I see you!
St. Mgume @iammgume
08 Jul, 26
Absence makes the heart grow finder and presence makes it grow indifferent.
Marie @marie
09 Jul, 26
Marie @marie
09 Jul, 26
I knew I was special. 😂
malbie @malbie
09 Jul, 26
Many of life's challenges become overwhelming because hopelessness convinces us they are permanent and inescapable. Hope does not always remove the burden, but it changes our perception of it, making endurance possible and restoring the will to persevere.
malbie @malbie
10 Jul, 26 (E)
Art mirrors the limitlessness of imagination. In essence, art reflects the infinite possibilities of human imagination, giving form to ideas unconstrained by reality.
St. Mgume @iammgume
03 Jul, 26
Growing up, younger women often told us how we were "not their level".
They were partying with older men, getting into clubs for free, sitting in VIP sections, having no jobs but wearing expensive clothes, hair and the latest phones, with their bills being paid.

They had so many older men they could call for money and gifts, and we saw cars coming to pick these women up at universities every Friday night. They called us broke for not having a car and money at 22 years old even thought they themselves didn't have (a) car(s).

Meanwhile, we hustled and focused on making money. We finally made it in our late 30's, and now you want us to go date a woman who is 40 because she is “mature”? How? Multiple dicks? Penile mileage? "Abortionst"? High body counts?

Let's go enjoy what you enjoyed at a young age. What happened to those men you were partying with? Why didn’t they marry you?

Who the x*ck wants a retired bed to bed midfielder, just because she is a baddie?
malbie @malbie
03 Jul, 26
“Many get trapped in a mental framework that becomes their identity and prevents them from radically evolving their thinking with new facts and information. I finally broke free from it.” – David Marcus
malbie @malbie
01 Jul, 26
The system is so solid that anyone who enters it hoping to change it from within becomes inconsequential in that regard and only becomes consequential when propagating its ideals and agenda. That's why none within it should surprise you; they’re conscious conduits of its ideals.
malbie @malbie
01 Jul, 26 (E)
If someone said you look ugly with your purple hair. You most likely wouldn't care because you don't have purple hair. If they said you suck, you'd believe it because you don't think you're wholly good. Perhaps, you suck to a degree. If they asked whether you think your parents suck, you may argue in disagreement. But if they asked whether your parents are wholly good, you'd still disagree because they have flaws you may be aware of.

It's fascinating how we tend to judge ourselves harshly yet easily extend grace to anyone but ourselves. With this bias, we rob ourselves of the very mercies we need to live a life free from internalizing beliefs others have about us.

Briefly put, our capacity for grace is often directed outward, while our capacity for judgment is directed inward. We often tend to instinctively grant others the grace of being imperfect without being worthless, yet we often refuse to grant ourselves that same grace by allowing external opinions to define our self-worth.
Nix @hasfah
01 Jul, 26
Here I am again. I was just working on my grammar and vocabulary
malbie @malbie
02 Jul, 26
Friedrich Nietzsche — 'The higher man is distinguished from the lower by his fearlessness and his readiness to challenge misfortune.'
St. Mgume @iammgume
03 Jul, 26
Me: Bro, I have made my first real cash as a programmer.
Him: Congratulations, what was the project?
Me: I sold my laptop.
St. Mgume @iammgume
03 Jul, 26
St. Mgume @iammgume
03 Jul, 26
🎶 When you love someone...🎶
You mind your goddamn business!
St. Mgume @iammgume
03 Jul, 26
The SUBSCRIPTION economy!
I'm about to relocate to the country side.
St. Mgume @iammgume
03 Jul, 26
I NEED a friend with benefits. And not sexually! The streets are already littered. I am talking about access, nepotism, privilege and everything first class.

That's my prayer to the universe.
St. Mgume @iammgume
03 Jul, 26
Delilah!
That was her name.
St. Mgume @iammgume
18 Jun, 26
Your death is more guaranteed than your wedding.
So, instead of looking for your soulmate, how about you look for your soul, huh?
St. Mgume @iammgume
18 Jun, 26
Life's hard, but it's a lot harder when you're stupid.
TUSHABOMWE CEASER @ceaser1
20 Jun, 26
Remember the disrespect. Remember the desperation. Remember it all
Use that pain as fuel
St. Mgume @iammgume
21 Jun, 26
Gynaecologists giving you privacy to undress is the most ridiculous professional courtesy.