Valentine’s day reminds me of something I've been thinking about for a while now; how human beings are so talented at turning simple, beautiful things into full-time problems.

It normally feels like life is full of problems, but sometimes I wonder if they’re really that many or if we’re just constantly creating more. We take something good, simple, complicate it, and then begin to complain. Before you know it, there are talk shows, podcasts, panel discussions, people building serious careers around fixing things that common sense and a little honesty could have solved.

Communication for example; God gifted us with the ability to communicate in various forms what we want, what we don't want, what we feel, get a response, so we know how to proceed. We can create spaces that allow others to communicate, respond honestly as well, and then move on with life. Reactions may not always be positive, but clarity has a way of phasing things out.

As a single person, why are you wearing earphones when walking in public?

Life was simpler because we were ignorant, not because it was healthier. Which is annoying, I know. Knowledge ruins the vibe before it saves your life.
Back then, you were just “attached,” not diagnosing yourself at 2 a.m. You were “in love,” not Googling whether it was manipulation. You stopped talking because it hurt, not because you were enforcing “no contact” like it’s a legal clause. Fewer words, fewer spirals, more confusion you just sat with.
But here’s the annoying truth. Those words exist because people got hurt. Repeatedly. They are labels for patterns that were wrecking lives quietly while everyone pretended it was romance or loyalty or patience. Language didn’t create the mess. It just turned the lights on.
That said, we’ve swung too far. Now everything is a red flag, every emotion is a disorder, and every breakup needs a strategy deck. Sometimes you’re not anxiously attached. Sometimes you just liked someone. Sometimes it wasn’t love bombing. Sometimes they were just in

In every aspect of life, I have never seen someone who is always a victim do well.
They complain their lives away. They never do anything productive because they assume someone else owes them and will give them the life they desire. 😂

Someone may have genuinely done you wrong, but once you take a permanent seat in the victim’s corner and dwell there, no amount of guilt they feel will ever change your life.
And, that posture blinds you to your own actions that contribute to how badly you are doing.

Look at communities that still blame colonialism and slavery for their current state. You would think they were the only ones colonized or enslaved but they weren’t.
Their fellows just don't whine about it. They chose productivity and the fruits there of are evident.

I have been reading some books and I have come to realise most writers want us to follow the same paths and patterns. No , we won't! We are tired!!!

There are people you meet maybe once or twice in a lifetime who will genuinely take interest in helping you grow, succeed, and walk in your purpose.
They will do it without an agenda, without needing credit, or expecting anything back. They will move from love, not self-interest.
It's important that you recognize them because they're a gift, and it's even more important that you become that kind of person too.