I used to be Marie the quiet girl,
the one constantly asked why I am the way I am.
But it feels like one day, everyone became like me.
Everyone is quiet now, living their private lives, and there is nobody left to ask why.

Maybe they got to know me and loved where I am, the quiet place.
I sure hope they weren't pushed into the quiet corner by life, forced to become me
...when they were happier being loud.

People with good hearts, people who love genuinely, actually win. Others think they don't because what they call winning is measured by a different trophy. But the people who love play for something else and they actually walk away with it.

They win the ability to love over and over again and to receive love when it is given. They win a heart that even after it has been hurt, carries no bitterness.

For what significance is there in winning at being loved more, when your heart has become so hardened that it cannot receive love? What is the point of taking affection, attention, admiration, people...from others yet you will never truly enjoy any of it because bitterness has filled every part in you where joy should have lived?

The greatest victory in love is not being loved more than everyone else, it is remaining capable of love in a world where the hearts of many have grown cold.

Everyone's gonna hurt you. Just find those worth suffering for.

You can't be great if conventionalism is your life's ideology. There comes a point where you must know what you want, how you want your life to be, and refuse to let that be defined by how everyone else lives. You were put on this earth to live as yourself, not as a clone of someone else.

My biggest flex in life is being able to live as I believe. I will know I have lived if the way I live and experience life aligns with my convictions about it.

If we wake up every morning listening to, reading about, and studying other people...who to interact with, who to avoid, who to date, who not to date, how negative the opposite gender is, or how flawed this generation has become...when do we ever find the time to look at ourselves?

When do we pause to examine our own hearts, correct our own flaws, and become the kind of people we expect everyone else to be?

I don't know whether it is laziness or the obsession with being innovative but there is a way we are failing to solve existing problems, answer existing questions, or engage with real disagreements, and instead spend our energy creating solutions to problems that do not exist, answers to questions nobody asked, and arguments against positions nobody holds.

Once we are overwhelmed by what we've created, we begin to create conflicts, problems, & questions to get a sense of achievement without doing any actual work. We create imaginary opponents and haters, we congratulate ourselves for winning arguments that nobody made and award ourselves medals for winning battles that never happened. 😂 😂

Maybe that's why content creators begin with, "A lot of you have been asking...", when no one asked anything; "Nobody talks about this...", when everyone has been talking about it for years; or "I know I'm going to get a lot of hate for this...", when nobody is even planning to listen.

Honey, I hate to pop your bubble but someone had to do it. So here's the thing: You're not the main character and you never was! Shocking , right?
I know! Truly devastating news. Take a moment and let that sink in!

You see, outside of your parents, maybe your crush, nobody is watching you like that Diddy Netflix series. Everyone else is too busy getting back shots from life to notice your new haircut, that tiny acne breakout on your protruding forehead, that poorly applied mascara that doesn't match your skin colour or those leggings that you like to put on because they keep your left bum elevated and on the same level as your right one.

Truth is, people are far too consumed with their own chaos to audit yours.

So relax. Embarrass yourself. Wear the weird outfit. Listen to that ridiculous song on repeat and sing along with your hoarse voice. DM that crush of yours and when time comes, kick the bucket like you're your team's last hope at the world cup finals penalty shootout

Everyone carries a light and a dark side. The real danger isn’t finding the latter—it’s staring at it for long enough and failing to tell the two sides apart

Life was simpler because we were ignorant, not because it was healthier. Which is annoying, I know. Knowledge ruins the vibe before it saves your life.
Back then, you were just “attached,” not diagnosing yourself at 2 a.m. You were “in love,” not Googling whether it was manipulation. You stopped talking because it hurt, not because you were enforcing “no contact” like it’s a legal clause. Fewer words, fewer spirals, more confusion you just sat with.
But here’s the annoying truth. Those words exist because people got hurt. Repeatedly. They are labels for patterns that were wrecking lives quietly while everyone pretended it was romance or loyalty or patience. Language didn’t create the mess. It just turned the lights on.
That said, we’ve swung too far. Now everything is a red flag, every emotion is a disorder, and every breakup needs a strategy deck. Sometimes you’re not anxiously attached. Sometimes you just liked someone. Sometimes it wasn’t love bombing. Sometimes they were just in

I am letting everyone be wrong about me!!!

The problem with today’s world is that everyone believes they have the right to express their opinion AND have others listen to it.

The correct statement of individual rights is that everyone has the right to an opinion, but crucially, that opinion can be roundly ignored and even made fun of, particularly if it is demonstrably nonsense!

I think I'm gonna say yes to all my crazy ideas and see where they take me. Everyone hold tight!!✊

HR: Moi, do you have any festive season message to everyone out there?
Moi: Oui, I do!
HR: I'm listening....
Moi: Please, don't drink and drive during the festivities. You're more valuable to your family alive than 6ft under
HR: That's spectacular! Bravo, Moi, Bravo!
Moi: *blushing* Oh thank you! And secondly...
HR: Yes...
Moi: Let the little ones have their shot at believing in Santa! You believed in your ex 15 times this year, for crying out loud.

Sometimes the saviour complex is birthed from pride. You think you are the only one who has the power and the willingness to help, to stand by everyone else, and the entire world is only receiving from you and using you without giving.
You become so obsessed with what you have to do and what you have done for others that you don’t even take time to appreciate what others have done for you.

It is what makes you feel lonely even when you are surrounded by love, empty even when everyone is pouring into you.

Some people struggle with the fact that if someone is above you in a hierarchy and you depend on them, they get to make decisions. Whether you understand them or not. Their authority is the reason. That’s it.

That’s the same issue many people have with God.
It’s not that they don’t believe He exists… it’s that their minds can’t handle the idea of authority and submission. They want to question everyone, demand explanations, and act like they can hold anyone and anything “accountable,” while standing right at the bottom of the ladder 😂.

Some even convince themselves God doesn’t exist simply because admitting it would mean accepting that they have no absolute power.

Rebellion looks brave until you realise it’s just fear masked.
The irony is that rebels always see authority as way more extreme than the people who actually submit to it.
They imagine authority to be harsh, controlling, suffocating… while the ones who submit are experiencing grace, patience, and peace.

One day, you and everyone you love will die. And beyond a small group of
people for an extremely brief period of time, little of what you say or do will ever matter. This is the Uncomfortable Truth of life. And everything you think or do is but an elaborate avoidance of it. We are inconsequential cosmic dust, bumping and milling about on a tiny blue speck. We imagine our own importance. We invent our purpose—we are nothing.

We're just here to die. No more, no less!

Some people are like Joshua.
(Now before you think about Jericho and it's crubl(ed) walls, think again!
The joshua that I am referring to is a character from (the late) Ngūgi Wa Thiongò's, THE RIVER BETWEEN, who, after converting to Christianity (Joshua, the character, not Ngūgi) decided that all the traditional beliefs should be abolished, banned and made illegal (and in this case, the writer considered female circumcision (more like FGM, but who am I to reject the example that was given in the book?)

Despite Joshua's attempts to fully "lead" his family towards the "light" of the new religion, not everyone was truly convinced that it was the correct path to take, a case in point, his own daughter, who went behind his back and went for "circumcision" in order to "become a woman" as per tradition.

Now, Joshua tried all his best but unfortunately, he couldn't convince his own daughter to follow "the light" , which brings me to ask the questions :

THINGS TO DO BECAUSE YOU ONLY LIVE ONCE
1. Ask someone for direction and go the opposite way. 😂
2. Wink at everyone you make eye contact with. 😂

You’re all welcome 😂

Everyone's replaceable

There was a time when organisations followed a clear hierarchy. Certain positions were made just for decision-making, and communication moved upwards until it reached the person trusted to decide based on the reports.

But now, it feels like nothing happens without ten strategic meetings and input from everyone. Lower-level staff are supposed to give info for higher level yet everyone gets pulled into endless “strategy” talks.

It is like we are in the podcast era of work. Constant discussions and brainstorming take up time.
If we focused more on doing the work and let the people hired to decide actually decide, we wouldn’t need to work so many hours just to get things done.

And if, in your pursuit of freedom, the price you have to pay is becoming the villain in everyone else's story?

Then be the villain.

Own it. Nurture it. Water it like a bonsai tree of chaos.
Smile as they whisper your name like a curse—because finally,
you're free.

No longer shackled by their expectations, their approval, or their fragile illusions of who you “should” be.

Give them a show.
A performance so raw, so unapologetic, that history won’t know whether to fear you…
or envy the courage it took to burn the script and rewrite your role from “doormat” to “damn.”

You’re not heartless.
You’re just done shrinking to fit their comfort zones.

So play the villain.
But make it Oscar-worthy.
And let them choke on their popcorn while you steal the whole damn scene.

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stop getting so emotionally attached and enjoy experiences with a person. be friends. be a moment in time. be a memory. you don't have to fall madly in love with everyone who comes your way. just enjoy their presence for your moment together....
I hope I don't have to translate it for some of you😂

I was a simple Ghetto youth
With desires and fantasies
Hopes and wishes
To ride in Benzes
Era saapowa like I want you to do
'Cause inna di Ghetto everyone is a superstar
Abalemerako beebo abamalako
Ababiroberamu be basiraanirayo
Enguudo kwe twayitanga nga tutambuza bigere
Z′enguudo z'ezimu, kwe tuvugira

If this doesn't motivate you enough then Monday isn't for you.

People must earn the right to be in your inner circle. There are certain things that qualify a person to be in your inner circle. You cant just have everyone there. They must be worthy. And if you had not realised it nor practiced it, you need to because it will save you a lot. You can’t bring in someone who when you act at the best interest of yourself, it will offend them, one who doesn't value what you value, someone who isn't willing to go to certain depths with you.

Not everyone is born intelligent. And yet, no one is born stupid either.

This is what I say and people claim I hate criticism but like tell me what you think is wrong with my approach by principle, don't tell me what everyone else is doing that I am not and then call that criticism. 😂 There is no uniqueness because there is an aspiration to be clones in every aspect of our lives. 😌

When we have forgiven then we have the awareness of the mercy we live under and the desire for everyone else to have the experience of forgiveness.

This will subtly instill in us the discipline to desire to do the right thing.

It is easier for a man who has been shown mercy to show mercy to others.

And at the altar of forgiveness mercy is shown to us.

So we can show mercy to others. Now there is no requirement to do the wrong thing in exploitation and taking advantage of the ignorant but a pro-human approach focused on uplifting one another.

Now that will take a while but the first people will have to forgive a lot.

That's the price they have to pay for a greater society. Many people will not understand why it will be difficult.

That's because the reward is worth it.